A day in the life of …

Eight and a half months with a Primary School kid and a preschooler and life is still as busy as before. I have friends who asked me why I’m still caught up with so many things and I’ve to remind them that my children are in different sessions and hence there won’t be any rest except when they go to bed in the evening. That’s when I could take a real break.

In recent times too, I find myself unable to reply a text message ( especially in group chat) that requires me to think deeper in terms of my comments. My train of thoughts would often be disrupted by an inquisitive kid or a request to help them. In the end, I give up. I just need to be updated of what’s going on and hope that my friends would pardon me for my lack of sharing or reply.

Let me do a post of what’s going on in the life of this Mom.

6.30am | The kids used to wake up much earlier in their younger days but thankfully, they get up later these days. By this time, the husband would have gone to work and my day starts.

Breakfast scene these days. Most of the time, they would go off to play after having their bread. I try not to interfere because I know they need time for each other but I find that reading is much neglected by the older kid especially and I have to intentionally place a book on the dining table to entice the reader in them.

7.45am | By this time, both kids would have done the necessary and the boy is ready to go to school. The girl is in the afternoon session but has to tag along to send the boy since there isn’t anyone at home to look after her.

Audiobooks are a great help when we are on the road.

8.30am | I have about 1.5 hours of quality time with the girl before I have to busy myself in the kitchen (lunch). Normally, she would do her school homework or tasks given by yours truly. Thankfully, her teachers don’t normally give much homework and I have time to revise and read with her. 1.5 hours fly back very quickly and before we know it, I have to rush out lunch.

Lunch for the girl is in the kindy. Obviously she’s very much distracted and all she cares about is to spend time with her brother. A few mouthfuls and she’s done. The brother? He’s so absorbed when it comes to playing with his classmates. At times, I find myself having to feed him until I realised that I’m inculcating a bad habit in him. Arghhh…

12.30pm | The girl is in school and the boy and I are back home. Between now and 6pm, the boy and I have plenty of time to interact. He’s doesn’t nap and this means he needs to be sufficiently engaged. There are pockets of time when he could find something to engage himself (most play pretend) but mostly, he would want my company.

Most of the time, we stay indoors until about evening when we would go to the nearby park for some forms of exercise like cycling, scooting or simply having fun at the playground.

When I’m up to it, I’ll choose one afternoon to head out to some museums, zoo, bird park and the like. It’s field trip day and he absolutely likes it.

On normal days, I would have prepared dinner before Dan and I set off to pick the girl up from school in the evening. She would have her 10 minutes of playground time with her classmates before we head home.

6.45pm | Dinner is usually at this time and it’s normally one-dish meal (that’s all I can manage for now). We would all be ready for family devotion by 7.45pm. Lights off, ideally is at 8pm but sometimes we drag for 10 to 15 minutes.

And then….

It’s ME time for me!

I don’t particularly like such a schedule. It’s such a rush in the morning and I’m left with very little quality time with the girl. Time spent on the road and while waiting for the boy to end school and having lunch in the kindy is almost comparable to the amount of time spent with F. On the other hand, I’ve much more time with the boy and we could explore places at times.

Something has to change.

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A Day in A Life (of a mom of two)

The last time I participated in the DIAL blog train, I was a mom of one. Then I could plan and carry out a lot of homelearning activities for Faith. Fast forward one and a half years and I became a mom of two. Attention is divided between the kids but I am thankful that I could count on the older girl to take care of her brother when household chores call out to me.

On average, my day begins at 6am. On good days, the boy would wake up later, like 6.30am but more often than not, he wakes up before 6am. The hubs would have gone to work before 6am and thus my duty commences then. When the boy wakes up, so does the sister. Yawn!

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Breakfast is usually bread and I absolutely need my coffee to stay calm and loving. When I’m more hardworking, I would prepare a more decent meal but most of the time, not. Once the kids have had their fill, they would go off to play on their own while I have my five minutes of coffee break. Most of the time, Faith would play pretend and imagine herself to be a teacher. Occasionally, she would do some work. Dan, meanwhile, would seek to disturb his sister. Thereafter it’s a rush to get everyone ready before we set off for Faith’s kindy at 7.50am.

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Faith’s in school! It’s time with Dan! Before the boy turned one year old, I spent most of the morning at home because he needed to nap. These days, I try to go out with him more often. I would use one day for grocery shopping, either in the wet market or supermarket. It’s a good way to let him know about this world he’s living in and the things he sees as we shop. Two of the mornings are for exercising. I would put Dan in the stroller and do a slow run or brisk walk. 90% of the time, he would fall asleep in the stroller. If I could get help with childcare, I would go for my Minus Calories session.

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Once a week, I would also visit the library with him. I would love to bring both my children along but I know I will go mad with them going in different directions and in the end, I wouldn’t be able to pick out good reads for them.

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Faith has her lunch in school and this frees me up from having to prepare her lunch. Normally I would just grab anything to fill my stomach. Dan’s food is easy to prepare – just steam and puree. Yea, he still needs to eat pureed food.

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We would pick up Faith at around noon time. Dan would have a little playtime at the school compound. Faith would also spend some time playing with her schoolmates before we head for home. While she plays, I chat with fellow moms. Oh! First adult conversation for the day!

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By the time we reach home, it is 1pm. Faith takes a quick shower before spending some time with her brother. Once in a while, I allow screen time but more often than not, I don’t because the boy would find his way to the screen and stare at it. Not good!

Nap time is 2pm. Faith could nap on her own while I need to babywear Dan. It’s a bad habit, I know but he takes a really long time to fall asleep and if I am to get him to nap on his mattress, he would disturb the sister. I’m not sure when I can stop babywearing him; I hope I could see the light at the end of the tunnel soon.

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Faith normally wakes up earlier than the brother and since I’m still carrying Dan, she would have to work on her own. I wish I have more time to coach Faith but it’s been tough. I have to steal whatever pockets of time that I have to teach her. Thankfully, she is rather independent and would get to complete the task that I have set out for her to do. These days, I tend to focus more on her recognition of English sight words rather than the Chinese characters.

Most of the time, Dan would have gotten up at around 4pm and it’s ‘Big Muscles’ time after some snacks (which mostly consists of fruits). I believe in outdoor play for children and it’s also a good breather for me. If I can find fellow moms to chat, that would be my second adult conversation for the day. Sigh!

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Once a week, I send the kids to swim at their cousin’s and when I’m in the mood, I would bring them out for waterplay. Other times, it would just be playground time.

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5pm. It’s time to prepare dinner. It’s always a challenge with Daniel around. More often than not, he would crawl into the kitchen and want my attention. I can’t move that freely too because he is hanging on to my leg for his dear life. That’s when I get the sister to ‘entertain’ him. Most of the time it works. Those times when it doesn’t, I roar!

Dinner is mainly one-pot dish. I wish I could cook more dishes but I have to be practical and settle for easy-to-prepare meals although at times when I have the mood, I would prepare dishes. I’m bored with the same old stuff that I prepare and suspect that my girl is getting sick of the menu too. That day will come when I will try out other dishes…when Dan is a bit older and more independent and you will be sure that I will post pics of them on my instagram account.

The hubs comes back home around 6.30pm and I can finally have some real help. He has dinner while I clear the dishes and after he’s done with the meal, he would help to bathe the boy and sometimes the girl if she requests for it. I would have my time alone without the kids when I’m in the shower but at times, they will still look for me. Grrr…

By the time the hubs is done with shower, it is 8pm and it’s time for Dan to turn in for the day. He would have his last feed and we have our family prayer time. Then the hubs turn in together with Dan while I spend the next 30 minutes with the girl.

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We usually read storybooks or work on the world map (Geography) before her bedtime. Sometimes when she feels tired, she would inform me that she wants to sleep and she retires for the day. From 8.30pm onwards, I could have peace and no more calling of ‘mama, mama’.

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What do I do after they have gone to bed? Meal preparation, reading the Bible, reading up on early childhood education, reading and replying emails and more recently, doing up teaching and learning resources for the kids. I love the free resources from these two websites – this Reading mama and the measured mom – and as you can see from the picture, I’m working real hard on the materials.

I normally turn in latest by 11pm. I could have slept earlier but I really do cherish the time alone to do my own stuff. 😉

This post was written as part of the Day in a Life (DIAL) blog train that is being hosted by Mum in the Making. Do click on the button above to read more DIAL posts. It’s been so interesting to take a peek into the lives of fellow mums!

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Next up on the blog train is Dawn, the voice behind Daprayer.com. She’s a modern mama who seeks to live life beautifully, while #LearningParenting and #LearningGrace along the way. Through her blog posts and hand lettering artworks, she hopes to offer some inspiration and encouragement to mamas out there to create beautiful memories, build beautiful relationships, and be the most beautiful versions of themselves, inside and out.