I thought I might as well pen this. How we got started. How we decided on the day. Why did we decide to do that. I kept it low-key from the very beginning because I didn’t know if it would work. My family members didn’t know; only my close gfs knew about it. And when I decided to break the news to them or to the rest of the world, they gave the ‘shock’ look.
Ken starting asking me out in January and it took me a full month before I decided to try it out. I knew this guy for a year, worked with him and had my impression change from bad to good =p. He did something special for me on 15 Feb and won my heart. Here is a man who would go all out to woo the girl and the best part is, consistency is in his blood.
We made plans for trips, mostly to see how we can get along through these and a couple to support me in some tri races. We have been going rather smoothly in our relationship and we wanted to see what will happen in trips such as those. The closeness wouldn’t have been possible if not for the fact that we see each other every day from the time we wake up till we retire for the day. We see each other at work and pretty much understand our individual working style and how we relate to others. A whirlwind romance? Not sure if I like this description but it surely was with much consideration before a decision was made.
So he proposed in June although he had planned to do so at the Effiel Tower in Sept. We had planned for this trip not as honeymoon but because I had wanted to attend the Hillsong conference in London during this period and he wanted to go with me. So we started exploring the other places that we could visit. I knew about his plan, of course (he’s rather simple-minded) and hinted to him not to. It would be romantic nonetheless but imagine the poor guy who has to constantly think about the ring and I, having to worry whether we would be robbed.
So the proposal came a few months early and we decided we should go through wedding first and the trip could be our honeymoon. Just nice! The fact that the wedding day came so early was really not an issue to us, although my mom wasn’t so happy about it (too soon!). However, we knew we were committed to each other and it’s just a matter of time. Coupled with the fact that he would be leaving for his studies next year, it would be good to do things in stages rather than to have everything done the following year; I’m not sure if I can handle the stress!
We started planning for the wedding in July and decided the date to be 12 Sept. Ok. 2 months to plan and prepare. It wasn’t so difficult, having attended a few weddings and helped out in those gave me some head-start. Friends’ advice and recommendation were timely and helpful of course and most were done within a month and a half. Now, we just need to tie up loose-ends. We both decided that we do not need to spend too much effort on the wedding. Rather we want to work on our marriage. That, to us, is more important and thus the decision for a simple wedding affair for relatives and close friends.
The customary will come months later but for now, we are thankful that most are prepared for the upcoming BIG day.
I have learnt so much during this process, about myself, about being in a lasting relationship and I am thankful that despite some struggles, the man and I could still laugh it off and enjoyed each other’s presence in the midst of busyness (he is rather busy in his work).
I’m thankful for the friends who so readily came forward to help. Without them, I would be oh-so-stressed!
Now, the waiting.
And then, the celebration.
reading up helps!