Sometimes, somehow you met someone and in the conversation, you were somewhat impacted or intrigued by what was shared. Today, I encountered it.
She was casually asking me if I was in a relationship and the conversation started from that.
“You are still young, no need to rush. I got married at 31.”
And went on she did. She was widowed 5 years later when the family met with an accident. The husband and Mother-in-law did not survive. She escaped because she was at the back seat holding the 2-year-old. Face disfigured, she had to be in and out of hospital for a year. As a result of the disfigurement, she stayed at home all the time, afraid to meet anyone. As if the news of the death of the partner was not enough, she received a call from a woman and realised that the husband had a mistress and had fathered a girl.
Blow after blow. My jaw dropped as I listened to her story. “You are so brave,” I remarked. “No, I wanted to commit suicide. But I was so fat that I could not go through the window. YOu know, the windows in the hospital are so small. I’m lucky I have my family around me. They are the reason why I live.” She’s not joking. I’m not laughing.
I dare not say that I could empathise with her. After all, what have I gone through to be able to understand what she has experienced? To lose a loved one is painful enough but to learn of the infidelity as well? The heart is so pierced! I’m not sure if I could trust any man anymore. It’s so scary. Men being men… ;p
I left the cafeteria, amazed by her story. There is an extraordinary life among us. We work together everyday and yet I did not bother to want to know more about my colleagues.
I’m glad that I had such an encounter. I was in a dire need of encouragement. And what a neat surprise when I opened the mailbox! Dom’s postcard to me (again!) and the DVD – Spirit of the Marathon- I have bought and so looked forward to. I have not run for a few days and by now, I should have clocked that amount of distance. The lethargy is getting to me. I am not happy about it.
C’mon Lynn. 2009 is just 2 days away. What are you doing?
And one hour after this entry, SY called and make appointment to run on NY day. =) =) =)